*Disclaimer- Please read the folllowing >< below prior to reading entire post*
>I am in No
way an expert, not on relationships or anything to be honest. I’m writing solely
for the purpose of expressing my thoughts, feelings, observations, etc. I take time
to thoroughly read, learn, as Questions, etc along with my own personal
experiences and knowledge- before writing these ‘final drafts’ or what have you.<
“Dom Men not necessarily recognizing
themselves to be & an Emotional Mistress, Not simple enough to be put into
a little box”
The best men I would assume don’t classify
themselves as Dom and/or do not know that side of themselves. They can just be
ordinary but amazing men, many with professions in some form of Helping others,
community service, public service. Those with the ability to calm the emotional
storm with kindness & caring. I did not at first think of it from the
professional side seeing how I am in a similar area of profession, being in
Home Health Care. Often undervalued, at work and even at home. It may not be the
power of domination they crave alone, not like a lord complex- but to be recognized,
they crave that adoration which they deserve, that only a submissive can give
them.
An ’Emotional Mistress’ don’t confuse with
outside assumptions as we know the thoughts that come up when hearing about ‘a
mistress’. An emotional mistress exists for reasons that are not as black and
white as those of a sexual mistress, not I’m not saying there isn’t sexual
encounters in this dynamic but there is far more to it- maybe because there is
simply a fundamental breakdown between two people who are/have been involved in
a long-term relationship. With the relationship at an ‘impasse’ broken (whether
beyond repair or not) neither partner willing to say, "I cannot continue
living this way."
Of course there is always some level of hope
in repair, but when it’s no longer about love & the relationship. When it
has turned into concerns of things like a possible battle over child(ren), the
financial annoyances of splitting up and/or selling property. Once this point
has been reached, where it seems all efforts have been exhausted in trying to ‘fix’
the relationship- Now becomes a waiting game of who is going to care enough about
their kids, themselves, even their partner to set aside the practical and do
something healthy.
The need to feel like we are seen and that we
matter is a fundamental part of being human. So for the individual(s) in this scenario
you cannot completely blame them for wanting to have that in their relationship
and not just feel as though it’s a continuous battle for any form of recognition/appreciation,
and not just holding position as the bank or a sound board for every little
issue, and just stand by while their partner throws whatever mess they feel
like hurling at them- along with the honey do list as a form of intimacy.
'As I stand right in front of you- yet
completely overlooked. Our deep-rooted need to be truly recognized- humans
essential need to feel connection.'
